The swing community has been booming in the 90's as more and more couples decide to relax their inhibitions and explore their sexuality. However, as with all social experiences, there are some definite DO's and DON'TS. A little common courtesy goes a long way to smoothing what can be, at times, (especially for beginners) a slightly awkward experience.

BE YOURSELF

People are interested in YOU, so relax and be yourself. This doesn't mean you should be a jerk and disrespect others, it means you should "let your hair down." Also, whether or not you're interested in swinging with someone or a couple in particular, remember to always be polite. You may have other things in common and develop quite a friendship despite your initial reaction. In swinging, as in the rest of life, our relationships can change with people over time and through them you might meet someone with whom you wish to be intimate.

BE COURTEOUS

The lifestyle can raise certain, valid insecurities, uncertainties and fears. You're not always going to find people that share the exact same views that you do. Always try to be aware of other people's comfort levels, especially your partner. In a group party situation, a friendly "hello" can work wonders to ease someone's discomfort, and if you find that your interests are in different directions, or any attractions aren't mutual, remember to remain polite, as you would certainly wish to be treated. When meeting a potential swing partner one-on-one (or two-on-two, or two-on-one as the case may be) the same applies: be polite, even if you don't think there's any potential for intimacy, you could still have a great time anyways. Keep an open mind.

CLEANLINESS

If you really want to bring what could be an intimate evening to an abrupt halt, DON'T SHOWER or BRUSH YOUR TEETH! Nothing is more of a turn-off than body odor and offensive breath. In many ways swinging is just like dating -- you still have to make yourself presentable, even more so if you know the evening will involve sexual intimacy. It's always good to carry a small accessory case with you containing: a sample size mouth-wash, breath-mints/gum, sample-size deoderant, condoms (if your prefer) and perfume/cologne. A small kit like this can easily be fitted in your car's glove-compartment for quick, easy access.

DON'T PUSH

Remember, "no" means "no." Anyone has the right to refuse your advances as you have the right to refuse theirs. Don't expect or ask for any explanation, in this lifestyle an initial "no" will seldom change to "yes" no matter how much persuasion you apply. Not everyone will match perfectly and an improperly handled situation can result in hurt feelings. If there's someone that you would like to swing with, let them know in a friendly manner and accept their response -- whatever it may be. If they change their mind, they'll let you know.

PRACTICE SAFE SEX

Practicing safe sex is, of course, a person's choice. But it's a very important choice -- this is the 90's after all. Anyone's decision to use condoms should be politely accepted. Anyone not willing to accept this decision is acting irresponsibly and disrespectfully. If someone's willing to be intimate with you, you owe them the simple courtesy of respecting their comfort level.

ENJOY YOURSELF!!

Swinging is about having a good time. Live some fantasies, explore your sexuality and enjoy! This lifestyle has plenty to offer with clothes on as well as off. Approach it with a positive attitude and a sense of humor.